The results are in and she won with a landslide count of over 76% of the votes. You can see the results and a little interview with her below. I love this and I have no doubt that the online word of mouth really helped her to get one step further on her journey.
Below is Avery's video for the competition. Good luck girl!
Brilliant resource for parents, guardians or family of LGBT people.
I was having dinner last night with a group of girls - some friends, some acquaintances, some I'd never met before. One of the girls who got married about 4 years ago, and who was a single mother previously to that, was saying how her and her husband would have been better off financially if they hadn't of gotten married. As a single mother she would still get lone parents allowance and mortgage allowance but as a married couple they get nothing.
And I was sitting there thinking, wow, I can't believe you're bitching about the fact that you have the choice to get married. I'm sorry you feel being legally entitled to be considered in your partners life is such a burden. I'm sorry that you will never have to face the reality of being turned away from your partners bedside because you are legally strangers, or that your child will be taken away from your partner in the event of your death because they are not biologically related.
Let me say, I do believe in freedom of speech but that does not entitle you to say whatever you want. Your words have impact. When you speak you have a responsibility to understand the implications of what you are saying.
* This is not an attack on the Now Foundation but more on the definitions of what are socially accepted gender classifications of beauty. I saw X-Men tonight, so I may be more pissed off than normal at how people are treated as outcasts in the world when we don't fit into acceptable boxes. >:-(
All I can say is I want the Glee fic where Rachel and Quinn realise they are not fighting over Finn but to make sure the other is single so they can have smoochy smooch time.
And don't even get me started on Rizzoli and Isles.
Canadian Parents Raise Gender-Neutral Baby by Not Revealing Its Sex
( click for random thoughts on this & some personal history )
Warning for NSFW pic and anti-gay language, but one of my favourite lines was probably "Most often, the bottom can be identified by his bearded face, sarcastic flippancy and very tight slacks (to show off the buoyancy of his buttocks)."
*For those that don't know Christwire is a satirical website that publishes blog style articles that highlight perceived excesses of Christian conservatives. So, y'know, not to be taken seriously! ;)
The most important thing you have to do is be safe!
( Advice To A Young Queer On National Coming Out Day )
Patrik Age 1.5 is a Swedish movie about Goran and Sven, a gay couple who are waiting for the arrival of their adopted son Patrik aged 1,5. When their son actually shows up it turns out there was a typo and instead of the toddler they are expecting, they get a 15 year old homophobic delinquent with a history of violent behaviour. Cue the hilarity...
...or not as the case actually is. There are funny moments in the movie and the neighbourhood they live in has a certain cookie cutter feel to it, but Goran and Sven themselves are presented in a realistic and low-key way. In fact as the film progresses it's interesting to see how much the white picket fences and perfectly manicured lawns of their neighbours hides the real story of their "ordinary" families.
While there are no real surprises to the movie the two main characters, Goran and his "son" Patrik, are beautifully acted and show complex personalities and their difficulty in dealing with themselves, their relationships and the world around them.
This movie may not be groundbreaking but it does show us that if we look past the stereotypes and labels placed on those around us we might just find something we like... and perhaps even someone to love.
( Click to see trailer )
Starting in the 50s with the return from the Navy of Dorothy Nelson, played by Brittany Murphy, after her blue discharge (used by many COs to get rid of homosexuals ), continuing to the 70s and the story of a closeted French teacher Mr Roberts and his student Toby as both struggle with the difficulties of coming out. Finally moving to 2000 & the "wedding" day of Amos & Andy, where along with dealing with the anti-gay protesters & his stubborn father, Amos is getting cold feet about the wedding and his conformity to a heteronormative life.
Watching the movie I was struck by Brittany Murphy. While she may not have been completely believable as a former navy officer, her ability to portray a character who was taking her first steps towards realizing and accepting her sexuality was realistic and intriguing. And while the last story of the wedding was hopeful it was perhaps a little to saccharine for my taste. But most poignant was the 70s tale of Mr Roberts and Toby, a student who, in his teachers own words, is top of all his classes, on the varsity swimming team, is going to Harvard and yet is bullied and attacked by his team mates for his perceived gayness. It instantly reminded me of Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover & Jaheem Herrera, the 11 year old boys who committed suicide last April after enduring daily repeated bulling from school mates about their perceived gayness.
Overall the movie may not have had the impact on me a other films, If These Wall Could Talk 2 which was also released in 2000 springing instantly to mind due to the similar story telling device, it is definitely an interesting look at the developing attitudes towards LGBT community within small town America.
This is Ricky Martin - newly out Ricky Martin - in a video unlike anything I have ever seen him do before. Is it meant as a exploration of how he currently feels in the media, naked and vulnerable? Is it a comment on the male body and how we look at people? Is it something completely different altogether and just meant as a publicity piece for a new album he is doing? I don't speak Spanish so maybe someone who does could let me know what the words say.
Either way it is an absolutely beautiful piece of art.
ETA: More info here.
What? so if he had dressed in flamboyant clothes and constantly talked about fashion and men (the journalist's words) his death wouldn't be that much of a tragedy?!? Jesus, I fucking hate the tabloids sometimes. He had a husband who loves him and is devastated, family and friends who are in shock and they really don't need to hear that kind of crap. Give him some respect!
I always thought of No Matter What as Stephen's song. He mightn't have been the best singer but he loved what he did. I think this performance proves that. And my god what a cute smile he had.
In the wake of the California Supreme Court ruling on Prop 8 I think we're all feeling anger and disbelief but I can't believe in all of this that anyone is truly surprised. That lack of surprise does not mean the decision isn't still depressing but what I needed to do was find hope. Something to make me keep believe and keep fighting.
That hopes comes from the words of Phyllis Lyon.
Phyllis and her late wife Del Martin were the first couple to marry in June of last year after a "courtship" of over fifty years.
The whole article is wonderful to read. It tells the story of how they met. How they became a couple and eventually how they got involved in civil rights. But they thing that got me was this woman, who has seen so much, has lived a full and wonderful live, who married the woman she shared that life with and lost her not long after could still say:
I'm optimistic about the future. Look at all the states that have now done this. Boom. Boom. Boom. Boom. They may not all last. But it's going to be all right. It may not be while I'm alive, but eventually it will work out that if two people want to get married, they can get married and it won't matter to whom. We went through this before with people of color. It will be OK.
I hope I won't be saying the same thing when I'm 84. In fact I know by then that the world will be a different place. One thing we can always be sure about is that we will continue to evolve as a people and as a global community. Change is going to come we just have to believe it will be OK.
Right now all I want to do is give the California Supreme Court wedgies because obviously that's the only kind of mentality they can undestand.
I gotta say Iowa (and state rep. Ed Fallon) got it right when they agreed.
"I believe strongly that what we are dealing with here is the defining civil rights issue of this decade. ... What are you trying to protect heterosexual marriages from? There isn't a limited amount of love in Iowa. It isn't a non-renewable resource. If Amy and Barbara or Mike and Steve love each other, it doesn't mean that John and Mary can't. Marriage licenses aren't distributed on a first-come, first-served basis here in Iowa. Heterosexual couples don't have to rush out and claim marriage licenses now, before they are all snatched up by gay and lesbian couples. Heterosexual unions are and will continue to be predominant, regardless of what gay and lesbian couples do. To suggest that homosexual couples in any way, shape or form threaten to undermine the stability of heterosexual unions is patently absurd. And I know, you'll say: 'What about the gay agenda?' Well, just as there turned out to be no Bolsheviks in the bathroom back in the 1950s, there is no gay agenda in the 1990s. There is, however, a strong, well-funded anti-gay agenda, and we have an example of its efforts here before us today."
--From a speech delivered on the floor of the Iowa House by state Rep. Ed Fallon in opposition to legislation prohibiting recognition of gay marriages performed in other states.
Hey, remember when the Obama administration said they were going to repeal Don't Ask, Don't Tell? And not in an 'Oh we'll have a look at it' kind of way but in a single worded "Yes!" This was not a campaign promise, Obama was already elected. It filled me with hope and buoyed my already huge belief in the big O. Now, it's four months later and shit like this is still happening.
It makes me sick and angry and just want to rage. Please, can we just end this now! In what way is allowing gay people to serve openly in the American forces really going to be bad for morale? Personally, if I was in a war, I'd want my whole army to be gay because if there's one thing we know how to do it's fight to the bitter end for what is right and just.
AfterEllen.com published their Hot 100 for 2009 today. It reminded me of a sexy women meme I did in June of last year and got me wondering how my list might have change in the last year. So...
ladyoflisquill's 2009 Top 10 Sexy Women (in no particular order):
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ETA: Had to add Ellen interviewing Portia for her show. So cute!
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