Let me say, I do believe in freedom of speech but that does not entitle you to say whatever you want. Your words have impact. When you speak you have a responsibility to understand the implications of what you are saying.
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In the wake of the California Supreme Court ruling on Prop 8 I think we're all feeling anger and disbelief but I can't believe in all of this that anyone is truly surprised. That lack of surprise does not mean the decision isn't still depressing but what I needed to do was find hope. Something to make me keep believe and keep fighting.
That hopes comes from the words of Phyllis Lyon.
Phyllis and her late wife Del Martin were the first couple to marry in June of last year after a "courtship" of over fifty years.
The whole article is wonderful to read. It tells the story of how they met. How they became a couple and eventually how they got involved in civil rights. But they thing that got me was this woman, who has seen so much, has lived a full and wonderful live, who married the woman she shared that life with and lost her not long after could still say:
I'm optimistic about the future. Look at all the states that have now done this. Boom. Boom. Boom. Boom. They may not all last. But it's going to be all right. It may not be while I'm alive, but eventually it will work out that if two people want to get married, they can get married and it won't matter to whom. We went through this before with people of color. It will be OK.
I hope I won't be saying the same thing when I'm 84. In fact I know by then that the world will be a different place. One thing we can always be sure about is that we will continue to evolve as a people and as a global community. Change is going to come we just have to believe it will be OK.
Right now all I want to do is give the California Supreme Court wedgies because obviously that's the only kind of mentality they can undestand.
I gotta say Iowa (and state rep. Ed Fallon) got it right when they agreed.
"I believe strongly that what we are dealing with here is the defining civil rights issue of this decade. ... What are you trying to protect heterosexual marriages from? There isn't a limited amount of love in Iowa. It isn't a non-renewable resource. If Amy and Barbara or Mike and Steve love each other, it doesn't mean that John and Mary can't. Marriage licenses aren't distributed on a first-come, first-served basis here in Iowa. Heterosexual couples don't have to rush out and claim marriage licenses now, before they are all snatched up by gay and lesbian couples. Heterosexual unions are and will continue to be predominant, regardless of what gay and lesbian couples do. To suggest that homosexual couples in any way, shape or form threaten to undermine the stability of heterosexual unions is patently absurd. And I know, you'll say: 'What about the gay agenda?' Well, just as there turned out to be no Bolsheviks in the bathroom back in the 1950s, there is no gay agenda in the 1990s. There is, however, a strong, well-funded anti-gay agenda, and we have an example of its efforts here before us today."
--From a speech delivered on the floor of the Iowa House by state Rep. Ed Fallon in opposition to legislation prohibiting recognition of gay marriages performed in other states.
Hey, remember when the Obama administration said they were going to repeal Don't Ask, Don't Tell? And not in an 'Oh we'll have a look at it' kind of way but in a single worded "Yes!" This was not a campaign promise, Obama was already elected. It filled me with hope and buoyed my already huge belief in the big O. Now, it's four months later and shit like this is still happening.
It makes me sick and angry and just want to rage. Please, can we just end this now! In what way is allowing gay people to serve openly in the American forces really going to be bad for morale? Personally, if I was in a war, I'd want my whole army to be gay because if there's one thing we know how to do it's fight to the bitter end for what is right and just.